What’s your take on touchy-feely stuff?
For example, when you first meet people are you a hand-shaker, hugger, double-kisser or way more standoffish? What about later on in friendships….are you touchy-feely, need your space or have a total quirk about not liking to be touched somewhere that we’re supposed to know if you don’t tell us? Ahem. Moving on. Lastly, what about PDAs (public displays of affection)….are they cool, obnoxious, somewhat okay, never okay, or something entirely different?
Ohhh, where to start!
- When I first meet someone the last thing I want is them invading my space… see this circle around me *waves arms in a wide circle* that’s MY space, stay out… step away from the zone! I can’t abide people who I’ve never met smothering me in any kind of hug or kiss session… get thee behind me, touchy-freak! It’s the quickest way to get me to dislike a person on sight and, believe me, it’s happened……….. more than once! I mean, come on!!!!!! Why, pray tell, do people feel this need to get all touchy with someone they’ve met for the first time three seconds earlier? It just makes me suspicious. A handshake I can cope with - but even then, unless it’s an interview or some other kind of business meeting, I would question just why someone would be stuffy enough to feel they’d have to shake my hand. A simple “hi, how are you?” is more than adequate with me. Or even a “It’s so cool to meet you, finally!” I can cope with that too. But no touching, goddamn it! NO TOUCHING!!!!!
- On to stage two - this is where we’ve met once or twice now and are moving towards a friendship of some kind. Just in case you hadn’t figured it out yet, I’m not a touchy person, I prefer not to be touched, thank you! But at this stage, 9 times out of 10, I can cope with a quick hug - I prefer it over stupid air kisses (What the hell are they all about anyway?) - but I would still prefer to keep that space I alluded to earlier… *waves arms around in a big circle again* Just imagine we’re talking over a fence (with some kind of barbed wire over the top of it so you can’t lean over
) - In a relationship, now that’s an entirely different matter. With my other half I can be as touchy-feely as I like (which he’ll be quick to tell everyone isn’t very often. Damn it, I’m not a touchy-feely person!!!!) but public expressions of affection by my other half don’t bother me at all. Although I do draw the line at tonsil tickling in the middle of tescos! That’s not to say there hasn’t been certain times when serious gropage has gone on in the freezer section *sniggers*
All that aside, what it boils down to for me is the person attemping the touching. When I first met my mother’s current husband, he came at me across the carpark (I had no clue who this guy barrelling towards me was) and threw his arms around me in some kind of dramatic hug. He was met with a stiffened spine and a glare that demanded “what the hell are you doing?”. From that point on, I disliked him. I still do. I’m told he’s quite a nice guy. Tough luck, I dislike him immensely - there’s more to it than the deluded hug, but that’s another post. What he did was set the wheels in motion and got my hackles up by invading my space without invitation. A big no-no. Don’t do it… not if you want to live!
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February 26th, 2008 at 1:05 pm
{Note to self- when & if you finally meet Azh- Do not, I repeat DO NOT hug or make air kissy motions toward her.} Actually, I agree with you. Certain friends I am very huggy with and of course my family. But unless I know you really well, don’t invade my space. It’s an open invitation to warfare and I take no prisoners. I don’t get why people think this is an acceptable form of behavior.
February 26th, 2008 at 7:03 pm
Me either, it just bugs me.. incidently go read Me - A to Z - I’ve nominated YOU to do it on your blog, so link back here when you’re done
February 27th, 2008 at 1:19 am
As you know, I already did so. :p Didn’t know I was supposed to link back. I enjoy those types of things. What else are you nominating me for Ms. Azh?
February 27th, 2008 at 9:46 am
you’re supposed to link to your post here, daft cow ;) it’s a way to share traffic between blogs
I’m looking around for something else to get you to do right now!!!
February 28th, 2008 at 1:01 am
Well you didn’t tell me that heifer, so how was I supposed to know. *sniff* Daft cow indeed. Sweetie, if the traffic between our blogs was airline miles, we could fly back and forth all the time to hang out with each other. Let me know next time. You know one of my paid for blond hairs took root. ;)
February 28th, 2008 at 9:15 am
If only - on the air miles. We could cause mayhem!!!!